Most husbands are really good guys.
They try really hard and they want to do the right thing. They want to have good marriages.
But two problems get in the way for nearly all husbands:
#1. Most husbands put their effort and energy toward the wrong things. Their not bad things, but they just won't reach their intended results, which is to have a better marriage.
Their intentions are good, but they're shooting at the wrong target. And whenever we're shooting at the wrong target, we'll miss 100% of the time.
#2. Most husbands end up feeling frustrated because #1 doesn't work, and so they begin taking their foot off the gas pedal all together.
They stop showing up in a consistent way.
These are the two fatal flaws for many husbands.
After working with hundreds of husbands and couples in therapy, I am 100% confident that if husbands fixed these two easy things they would have dramatically different relationships.